Shyness is something that I have struggled with my whole life. I’m definitely not as shy as I used to be but I can still find myself in situations where I don’t do/say something because I’m too shy. Or, because I care too much about what certain people think of me.
Throughout my (short) life, I have tried to come up with different ways to stop caring about other people’s perception of me. I’ve realised that the best way for me to do that is by, instead of focusing on other people and their hypothetical thoughts, shifting my attention inwards. Focusing on wether or not I am living up to my own values in that particular situation.
This works because when you make sure that you react in a way that reflects who you would like to be/the things that you find important, you can still feel good about yourself. Regardless of what happens.
(eg. (silly example) It’s important for you to be adventurous and you decide to take a risk. You fail and instead of feeling embarrassed for “looking stupid”, you feel good because you were brave/took the risk).
Because I have realised that this way of thinking works for me, I thought of taking some time to define what my values are and what I find important (which I will probably talk about in another post).